Feeling Nervous for your First Date? Check this Dos and Don’ts Guide!

Have you met a person that you don’t know personally? Or you just know by exchanging messages on free dating sites for interracial dating? Or being referred by your friend? That feeling where you will have your first date is nerve-wracking.  So, how do you deal with the anxiety that inevitably comes with first-date territory? As cliché as it sounds, being yourself is probably best first date advice. It’ll ensure that you not only have a good time on a first date, but also get a second date, too.

Here are the Do’s and Don’ts that you should keep in mind before and on your first date:

Do’s

1. DO Speak Up

Nobody likes a pushover, so if your date tells you he or she has planned an evening at a sushi restaurant and you don’t eat fish, or they want to hang at a cocktail lounge but you don’t drink, speak up. It’ll only look strange if you tell them all that after you’re already seated and waiting to order. Same goes for being decisive. If your date asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, what you want?” Wishy-washy can get real old, real fast.

2. DO Offer to Pay

A tactful way to do this is to simply reach for the check when it comes. If your date insists, offer to split the bill, or at least leave the tip. However, if you offer to pay or split, be prepared to actually pay or split. It is much better to be prepared.

3. DO Be On Time

Yeah, we know the whole “fashionably late” ideology still exists, but on a first date, you’ll make a better impression if you show up on time. Would you want them to show up late? Probably not. Being late is not make sure to be early by that you can make things more organize.

4. Be Honest

Just as you shouldn’t misrepresent yourself online, don’t tell “little white lies” in person to make yourself more fascinating. This doesn’t mean you need to tell them everything about you right off the bat. Maintain some mystery. If you’re interested in a second date, you don’t need to reveal everything during the first one.

5. Active Listening

When you’re getting to know your date, don’t be prepping your next thing to say while he’s talking. Ask him a question to get him to expand on what he just told you. This lets them know two things: that you were paying attention and that you’re interested. Try to keep the listening to talking ratio more or less 50/50.

 

Don’ts

1. Don’t Use Cellphones

Never take a call or text during your date. The only time it is acceptable is if it is urgent. In which case, make sure you tell her who and why you have to take the call/text, otherwise she may assume it is another woman.

2. Don’t over drink 

Remain in control and don’t make a fool of yourself by slurring your words and spitting in her face. You need to still be in proper composure.

3.  Don’t over share personal information.

She doesn’t need to hear about your psycho ex- girlfriend or how you’ve just gotten out of rehab. Avoid sharing your personal information detail by detail especially if it makes him/her awkward about what you are sharing and be mindful of body gestures.

4. DON’T Obsess Over Your Appearance

Who wants to waste precious date time running to bathroom to brush your hair, reapply your lipstick, or check the mirror every half hour? Put as much effort into your appearance as you want before you meet your date, but focus your energy on making solid conversation instead of worrying about how you look.

5.  DON’T Wear Things That You Can’t Walk, Eat, Breathe, or Talk in

Obviously, you want to look your best, but a first date isn’t the time to take those new stilettos out for a road test, or wear that dress that’s a little too tight. Why? Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse. Plus, won’t it suck to not be able to walk a few blocks on a nice night because your heels are too high?

It’s not rocket science to be a perfect date, but just like all walks of life, a first, honest and lasting impression goes a long way. Confidence and charm are still the best way to ace someone’s heart.

French Press, The Stylish Way to do Coffee

If you have been following this page or my social media accounts, then you will know very well that two of my biggest loves in life are coffee, and being stylish. With this sin mind then, it makes absolute sense that whenever I do have my daily coffee, I like to do so in style. Over the last couple of years I have really become an aficionado when it comes to coffee and the instant variety that I survived on for so long, simply doesn’t do it for me anymore.

I wanted to take to you today then, about one of my favorite gadgets in the home, and the only way to really do coffee in style, the French press.

What is a French Press?

If you have never seen a coffee press before, it is basically a jug which has a plunging device with a filter attached. Natural the presses will come in may different shapes and sizes as well as with different colors and different materials used. These presses are designed so that you can make the perfect cup of coffee every time and thanks to the materials which they are made with, they can keep your coffee warmer for longer, perfect for those who love to go back for more.

How to Use The Press?

You don’t need any technical knowledge to use these presses, simply put some coarsely ground coffee into the jug, add some boiling water, allow the coffee to brew until you are ready, and then plunge the filter through the coffee. Once you have plunged the filter, simply serve up the coffee and set to one side until you are ready for more.

Why Go To The Effort?

When compared to coffee machines where you simply hit a button, or indeed instant coffee, the French press does require a little more work from you. The benefits of this way of making coffee however, are far better than its counterparts and this is why it is worth putting that little bit extra effort in. Firstly the flavor is far superior through this way of making coffee than with any other, secondly it looks great and finally, the way in which the press works, you will never get any grit in your coffee after you’ve made it.  Another benefit that I love is also that you don’t have to replace the filter every time like with a percolator!

How to Stay Stylish?

If you want to stay stylish whilst making and drinking your coffee, make sure that you have a good search around for the right French press for you. There is a whole range of presses out there to choose from including brushed or polished steel presses, colorful glass presses and even the Jetsons-esque Aeropress. You can easily find something to match your individual style and the design of your kitchen when looking for a press so that you can stay stylish whilst enjoying your favorite drink.

The Most Interesting Cities To Visit In The World

The world is full of many amazing cities to visit and you could endlessly travel in search of the perfect one. There is nothing wrong with searching for the right one, but you would really need to visit all of them to truly decide. To do this, you need a starting point and I made this guide to show you some very interesting places that you could potentially visit. I hope you enjoy reading about some places that I find to be fascinating./

Reykjavik, Iceland

Iceland is world famous as the capital of Iceland and it is naturally one of the most interesting cities on earth.There is a budding art scene there, a whole host of natural wonders at every turn and a cool bar scene to explore too. The city itself is also very beautiful with the traditional houses that have been painted in all sorts of colours, like blues, greens, red and yellows. If you are visiting Reykjavik you definitely need to experience something that every Icelander loves to do and that is enjoying time swimming in the hot springs that are dotted throughout the city.

Rishikesh, India

This fascinating place was made famous by the Beatles after they took a trip to India in order to discover spirituality. Many people have since made the pilgrimage here and followed in the Beatles’ footsteps and the tourism in the area has now become totally receptive and welcome to visitors. You can enjoy yoga, meditation and much more in the area and it is truly a magical place. There are a number of cheap hotel options in Rishikesh, as well as more expensive retreat style options, so there be something for everyone here, from the backpacker to the middle aged corporate looking for inner peace!

 

Rocky Point, Mexico

Rocky Point is also known as Puerto Peñasco. This gorgeous area is closest to the states, only about an hour away from the border. What makes it so interesting is that even though it’s so close to the US, it’s a less popular vacation spot than Cancun or Cabo, which has preserved it. It holds on to a lot of authentic culture, and is complemented by gorgeous, tranquil beaches that are hardly ever overcrowded. This is a must-visit vacation spot!

Berlin, Germany

Germany’s capital is one of the most interesting and hip cities that you could ever visit. There are a large number of people from many different countries living here, all are attracted by the art and culture scene that is unrivalled in Germany. There is also abundant nightlife that makes it the party capital of the world. The bars stay open late and the clubs even later (many don’t actually close at point on the weekends). The food is great too with the large migrant Turkish and Vietnamese peoples living there, so you can be sure to have something great to eat too. Berlin is truly a city like no other that everyone should visit!

Seoul, South Korea

South Korea is home to one of the coolest cities going around: Seoul. Soul has hip cafes and Korean craft beer, something you probably wouldn’t expect. There are also many hidden bars and restaurants, which makes for an interesting adventure trying to find them! Korean food is naturally amazing and the Koreans love to experiment and take things to the extreme, whether it’s very spicy or super sweet, there is always something interesting to eat. Like Japan, Korea also has a number of cultural icons and movements, in particular in Gangnam (the home of the ultra cool in Seoul). Seoul is definitely one of my favourite cities in Asia that I would love to go back to as soon as I get the chance.

Sarajevo, Bosnia

Sarajevo doesn’t have the most beautiful buildings and isn’t the most pretty city that you will ever visit, but it certainly has soul and is one of the most unique places that you could ever visit. It will always be remembered as the place where the First World War started, after Franz Ferdinand (the heir to the Austro-Hungarian Empire) was assassinated in the middle of the city. The city’s history also continued in an interesting fashion as the host of the 1984 Winter Olympics and furthermore experienced a long civil war during the 90s. The city under siege from all sides for 3 years. The city has a very interesting culture and you can learn more about it in the various museums and sites of interest. I would highly recommend heading to Sarajevo if you get the chance.

Melbourne, Australia

There is nothing better than a multicultural city and Melbourne is one of my favourite, it has a beautiful mix of old and new architecture that makes it one of the most unique cities on the earth. It really is like the New York of Australia and I really enjoy the cafe culture there and all are in fierce competition to be the best, which can only mean great coffee for everyone. The food is also amazing, with a true melting pot of cuisines, such as Vietnamese, Chinese, Thai, Italian, Greek and so much more. The large migrant population is to thank for this and makes Melbourne the city that it is today.

5 Best Coffee Shops in NYC

Everyone loves coffee and in NYC you are spoilt for choice! Personally I love finding a great little coffee shop where the coffee tastes great, the wifi is good and where I can work all day long.

When you’re in a world class city such as NYC then you’re going to find a very upscale coffee environment. New Yorkers take their coffee very seriously indeed! But a good coffee shop isn’t all about the coffee, it’s also about the service, uniqueness and ambience.

Here are 5 coffee shops you really need to check out if you’re in the Big Apple.

Birch Coffee

These guys don’t only serve what many see as the number one coffee in NYC, but the service and authenticity is also second to none. Birch coffee has a real bustling vibe to it. One of the things I love is the library at the back of the shop where people can take a book or even leave one for others to read.

Toby’s Estate Coffee

This is the first shop opened by the Australian coffee company. It’s always buzzing here, and there’s a range of customers; people working away on their mac, families and also friends chilling out sipping on a great latte.

Happy Bones

Probably the smallest coffee shop on this list, but so quaint it had to be on here. Their roots come from New Zealand, so if you’re looking for a top flat white then this is the place for you. It’s located in the charming streets of Little Italy which just adds to its appeal.

La Colombe Torrefaction

If you like great coffee, an energetic atmosphere and very lively baristas then this has to be the place for you. They have four very successful shops dotted around NYC. It’s so popular that in the morning time you can see the queue going out of the door and round the block!

Stumptown Coffee Roasters

These guys first cracked the NYC coffee scene with an espresso bar inside the Ace Hotel. The benches that are made from old church pews are a site to behold. Add to that the super fast free wifi and an awesome selection of magazines and you know you’re on a winner. They have two locations, if I had to recommend one I’d advise heading to the store on 30 West 8th. You won’t be disappointed, I promise!