Have you met a person that you don’t know personally? Or you just know by exchanging messages on free dating sites for interracial dating? Or being referred by your friend? That feeling where you will have your first date is nerve-wracking. So, how do you deal with the anxiety that inevitably comes with first-date territory? As cliché as it sounds, being yourself is probably best first date advice. It’ll ensure that you not only have a good time on a first date, but also get a second date, too.
Here are the Do’s and Don’ts that you should keep in mind before and on your first date:
1. DO Speak Up
Nobody likes a pushover, so if your date tells you he or she has planned an evening at a sushi restaurant and you don’t eat fish, or they want to hang at a cocktail lounge but you don’t drink, speak up. It’ll only look strange if you tell them all that after you’re already seated and waiting to order. Same goes for being decisive. If your date asks what you’d like to eat, drink, or share for dessert, don’t say “I don’t care, what you want?” Wishy-washy can get real old, real fast.
2. DO Offer to Pay
A tactful way to do this is to simply reach for the check when it comes. If your date insists, offer to split the bill, or at least leave the tip. However, if you offer to pay or split, be prepared to actually pay or split. It is much better to be prepared.
3. DO Be On Time
Yeah, we know the whole “fashionably late” ideology still exists, but on a first date, you’ll make a better impression if you show up on time. Would you want them to show up late? Probably not. Being late is not make sure to be early by that you can make things more organize.
4. Be Honest
Just as you shouldn’t misrepresent yourself online, don’t tell “little white lies” in person to make yourself more fascinating. This doesn’t mean you need to tell them everything about you right off the bat. Maintain some mystery. If you’re interested in a second date, you don’t need to reveal everything during the first one.
5. Active Listening
When you’re getting to know your date, don’t be prepping your next thing to say while he’s talking. Ask him a question to get him to expand on what he just told you. This lets them know two things: that you were paying attention and that you’re interested. Try to keep the listening to talking ratio more or less 50/50.
1. Don’t Use Cellphones
Never take a call or text during your date. The only time it is acceptable is if it is urgent. In which case, make sure you tell her who and why you have to take the call/text, otherwise she may assume it is another woman.
2. Don’t over drink
Remain in control and don’t make a fool of yourself by slurring your words and spitting in her face. You need to still be in proper composure.
3. Don’t over share personal information.
She doesn’t need to hear about your psycho ex- girlfriend or how you’ve just gotten out of rehab. Avoid sharing your personal information detail by detail especially if it makes him/her awkward about what you are sharing and be mindful of body gestures.
4. DON’T Obsess Over Your Appearance
Who wants to waste precious date time running to bathroom to brush your hair, reapply your lipstick, or check the mirror every half hour? Put as much effort into your appearance as you want before you meet your date, but focus your energy on making solid conversation instead of worrying about how you look.
5. DON’T Wear Things That You Can’t Walk, Eat, Breathe, or Talk in
Obviously, you want to look your best, but a first date isn’t the time to take those new stilettos out for a road test, or wear that dress that’s a little too tight. Why? Because first dates are anxiety-filled enough and being uncomfortable in your clothes only makes it worse. Plus, won’t it suck to not be able to walk a few blocks on a nice night because your heels are too high?
It’s not rocket science to be a perfect date, but just like all walks of life, a first, honest and lasting impression goes a long way. Confidence and charm are still the best way to ace someone’s heart.